On Your Terms: Staying Curious, Capable, and Connected Throughout Life

What does it mean to age well - on your terms?

We know the recommendations. Stay active. Eat well. Keep your mind engaged. Maintain your relationships. Plan for the future.

All useful advice. But none of it can tell you what makes your life yours.

On Your Terms begins with a different question: What do you want to keep being able to do?

Maybe it’s traveling, tending a garden, getting down on the floor with a grandchild, driving yourself where you want to go, dancing with someone you love—or simply remaining engaged in the ordinary rhythms that make you feel like yourself.

Through personal stories, thoughtful observations, guided reflections, and questions to sit with, On Your Terms explores the relationship between our capabilities and the lives attached to them: how we respond when something becomes harder, when to adapt rather than surrender, how accepting support can sometimes expand rather than diminish our freedom, and why purpose gives our capabilities somewhere to go.

This is not a prescription for aging successfully or a promise that every loss can be prevented. It is a short, thoughtful guide to paying attention to what matters, participating in what happens next, and making choices that support the life you want to keep living.

Honor your body.
Honor your mind.
Honor your relationships.
Honor your purpose.

Because aging well isn't about becoming who you used to be.

It's about staying more like yourself.